Best thing you can do with your lips

A Kiss can tell from where its coming ....

.......and a kiss can tell where its leading

A Kiss is the healthiest appetiser and the yummiest dessert. The magic of a kiss is unmatched as is its disappointment. It is often the first step towards an intimate relationship and sometimes the end of a potential love affair. To perfect the art of kissing you need to follow your heart more than any how-to book. A Kiss often reveals where its coming from : the mind, the heart, lust or desire. Often the eyes and words fail to express what a touch of lips on lips can convey. It is over-rated by some and just part of the customary foreplay before the main act for others. I have been thinking of the different kinds of kisses and I am sure there must be hundreds but here are a few that come to my mind :-

1. Feather touch :- A gentle brush of lips on lips, often the first kiss between lovers. The eyes are closed and the bodies slowly moving closer to each other. The lips quiver before they touch and then slowly explore the curves of the partner. It doesn’t deepen very soon and the lips part after sometime, when the lovers look at each other and often end up in a tight embrace celebrating that first kiss.

2. The Teaser :- With one person taking on the role of a teaser and exploring his/her partner’s lips in all possible ways, nibbling on the lower and upper lips in turn, using the tip of the tongue to tease just a bit...and drawing apart when the partner wants more .

Fun fun fun !!!
3. Twisted two :- A passionate wet kiss with the tongue exploring more than just the lips of the partner. You need to be careful with this one if your partner is not that experimental or if it’s the first time. Not everyone is up for twisted tongue fun but for the right couple it can lead to many magical moments.

4.Short and sweet:- It’s the straight-from-the-heart kind that is just another way of saying 'I love you' . It is best when least expected. It may not lead to anything immediately but it will stay with you for a long long time.

5. Quick and clumsy :- When it’s just a mechanical thing with the end result in mind you can end up making kissing boring and ineffective. This one is the biggest turn off.

6. Lick and go :- An unexpected lick round the corner of your lips in the middle of shopping, a movie or an outing with friends is more sensuous than any other kind of kiss especially when teamed with that 'I want you’ look in your eyes. It leaves you wanting more and it makes sure that you’ll rip off each other’s clothes the moment you are alone.

7. Never Ending passion:- Try kissing for as long as possible without breaking contact, setting records and breaking them often. It’s fun when you discover that your partner’s lips are the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted.

8.Chocolate treat:- Get dirty with a kiss. Play with a piece of chocolate, try to get it from each other’s mouth… till the chocolate and lips taste the same.

9.Any place but lips :- This one is another teaser. Get close and passionate, play this game of not kissing on the lips but everywhere else ...see how long you can control that temptation.

10. Please add your fav here .... Every one has their own fav way of savouring the lips of his/her partner..

P.S :- All terms are coined by me ...

Unsettling things about settling down

Marriage is suppose to be one of the most awaited event in someone’s life .I agree it need some planning, preparation and discussions. I don’t blame parents to be concerned about the marriage of their children, but there has to be a line, a limit of pushing beyond certain threshold and some scope of open communication. This is especially true in case of girls.

When a girl reaches a certain age, everyone in the house, neighborhood and relations make match-making their business. All the actions are scrutinized keeping one aim in mind ‘marriage’.

If she gets into a good B school or job, people will say ‘now she would get good offers from well educated guys’.

Even today people don’t understand that a girl doesn’t study to get a decent match, she studies so that she can learn , judge , opt , work , earn and be independent, just like a guy. One of my friends was enthusiastic about the certification she is planning to get through by the year end. Her very ambitious brother in law didn’t even let her complete the sentence and remarked ‘your plan now should be to settle down’.

Some people try to project themselves as modern parents by openly announcing,’ we don’t mind her choosing her own partner as long as he is of our religion (cast, region), well educated, from a good family and having a steady (well paid) job”. So much for freedom!!

Daily I hear one or the other friend of mine struggling to convince her parents simple things like ‘ I am just not ready’ or ‘ It ain’t working for me’.

Another friend is fed up of talking to guys and every time she has to device a new excuse to tell ‘This is not the guy I’ll be like to share rest of my life’. I hate the trauma she goes through every time a new guy comes into picture .same questions, same apprehensions, same tamasha and same result. Now parents have zeroed down two guys and she has to pick one.What a choice...She said ‘I do rather do heads and tails and pick anyone because I like none’. But her parents are not listening.

One of my very good friends has left India and is definitely not coming back. Whenever her parents talk about marriage she simply hangs the phone.

All of these girls are good looking in their mid 20’s or late 20’s , single and open to love , and not ready to marry unless they are in love and 100 percent ready to spend their lives with the guy . They won’t marry if their parents won’t approve, but they won’t just marry to anyone their parents will choose.

I don’t know when people will accept that things are changing now and girls are not just a responsibility that you have to hand over to someone else and get tension free. And a girl has every right to say no for marriage if ‘ she don’t feel like kissing the guy’ ..:-)

A night in the cave

A dream, almost real
As I see it with open eyes
Of a night in a cave
With you by my side
Cave, yes a real cave
Home of a wild beast once
Rough and withered
Warm in a cold winter night
That’s the only comfort it provides
We can burn some wood sticks
For warmth and light

It calls me many a times
Me, unaware of roughness
I wonder why
Creepy insects, snakes perhaps
Will still inhibit it
Yes I am afraid of them

But still I want to be there
But with you by my side
Isolated from world
Webs! Uh the sight of them
I can’t stand
But it will be temporary abode
Of un-inhibited desires
I might not be aware
Of their existence
You will be having
My undivided devotion

We will carve few pictures
With stones on the walls
That will be discovered byCrazy people like us
Sometimes in future
If someone will take the same walk
We will talk about the past and future
Some real things
And dream some dreams together

I would love that look
In your eyes
Reflecting flames of the fire
When you will touch my hands
And share your desire
Your arms around me
To care and protect
And to tease for a while
I’ll take my turn

Scare you with a scream
And will be amused
At the changing expressions
When you get relief
Of me being fine
I’ll lie in your arms
And go into a deep slumber
Knowing that you will be awake
So that I can have a peaceful dream

In love with love

‘I am the one in love with love ‘, this is what I have been writing in about me section of my profile .It has raised a few eyebrows (as if I care), few sarcastic smiles that lead to comment ‘so u are in love again ‘, ‘I know what you mean’ expressions from my darling friends and sometimes from total strangers. Over the year I know this is what defines me perfectly, as I am more in love with love each passing day...

What does it mean to me to be in love? It’s always been about the feeling than the person. I absolutely loved the guys in my life, now I feel I was more in love with the way I feel when I was in love than the person.

I never had to weigh the feelings for months to know whether I was in love or not. I just knew it and never tried to hide it. I did the same when I was out of love, just let the person know .I took the blame, said sorry and moved on. Easier said than done, when relationships break, there are accusations, lies, blame games and endless nights of crying. I have been through all that and more .

When in the middle of sobbing one of the friends would say ‘that’s what happen when you are in love ‘,

I would retort ‘don’t say anything about love; it’s still the best thing that can happen to you’.

The truth is I believed in love more with each passing day. I still believe like a stupid love stuck teenager that pure, pious love that lasts till eternity is real.

I watch the moon with a fascination, enjoy the rains and sunsets. I smile at the love birds that walk hand in hand in streets; I hug old couples who have been together since what seems like eternity. My heart reaches out to people who fall out of love, I pray for friends who want to bitten by love bug.

I love being in love … with love.