Wednesday, 18 March 2009

Longing for a date with myself


Amidst a hectic lifestyle and trying to be super-human; managing work, friends, family, love life and virtual life, we end up losing touch with the most important person, our own self. Even the so-called ‘Me time’ on weekends/ holidays is spent with other people and we end up being tired rather than relaxed. I, like many people around me, crave for that one day when I can have a date with myself. It should be easy right? There are no appointments to be made, no fees to be paid …wrong! It’s a hard realization that I am not that easily available to myself, not anymore. There are other things that have taken priority.

Sometimes I feel like packing my bags and going for a holiday just like that, to spend some time away from the maddening world around me. Ideally, I would love to switch off my phone and not check my mails /orkut/Facebook/blog. I would walk for hours on a beach, dance away the evenings and indulge in body spa for hours .I would love to visit some religious places and eat my favorite foods, meet new people and silently watch the sunset. I would love to sleep for a good 10 hours and do window-shopping the rest of the time. I wish I could shut out the worries of day to day life from my mind for a few days and enjoy peaceful sleep interrupted only by beautiful dreams.

I have been promising myself this date for long, where I will have my undivided attention and when I will spare no effort in pampering myself. I will listen to myself with patience like I have never done before and I will discover things about me that I never knew existed.

I hope I get to do that soon…

64 comments:

i am what i am said...

me too!me too!me too! you would find a lot of women agreeing with you completely!!! but that does not mean men wont agree with you lol!!!!! what i meant was this me time is hard to come by for women than men. you are being pulled in so many different directions that you end up doing everything for everybody except yourself. i too have been meaning to take out some time for myself, go to a salon, read a good book, chillax, write my journal and so on!!! like you i too hope i get it soon. loved your post. keep writing!!!

Iya said...

just do it then..dont wait for long.. do it this weekend.. send an sms to people u knw who'll be worried informing them that u wont be reachanble for 2 day..and then switch off..
read, shop, eat, sleep and pamper urself..
i am telling u, if u think too much u;ll never find the time..sothis time dont think just do it :)
i hope i didnt sound preachy!!!

Onthewingsofadream said...

lets go together gunmeen ...I agree its tougher for women who are managing both home and office nowdays but life has never been easy for guys ...:-)

i agree Iya i'll just do it one day ..actually i do do all this every week ...just call home and couple of friends ...but my major problem is i cannot control my mind from other things ...and will end up eating , sleeping , surfing ...and with lack of sleep after weekend ...and a beach holiday with spa and idle walks is what attracts me ...lets see when it happens ..

Vijayshryaln said...

TIRED!!
yes..
njoy urself.. goood idea..

Latin Sardar said...

Done it already. Told everyone I'll be at point B on business and unreachable, took off for point C (from point B) in a car for 3 days - alone. It was a nice 600 km drive from point B to C. In fact, point A to B was also done in a car, that was a 1600 km journey as well, just one way (but that was with a friend). So did a total of 4400km+ journey that fortnight. That was FUN!!!
Do it sometime, it is somewhat therapeutic.

batates_777 said...

yess! thats well said, and it really tells how one can pamper and entertain himself ! go for it as soon as you can !
you know i used to do some thing alike a while back..i used to have aday for myown..i go to moviez withmyself, hv lunch with myself, go shopping, cruise , whaetever i feel like..with myself.
even my friends know about it, and know that me , myself are a real friendship :) that they envy me , myself :)
i miss those days ! wow, you bring back good memories here :) thank you..

Chronicwriter said...

even i want some time for myself... wanna spend time in front of the mirror, in the loo, in the bed and in the beach...

www.chronicwriter.com

americanising desi said...

i have taken that trip and when i got back, my parents took me to a psychiatrist.
lol.. she even laughed while i told her what made me do it...
:)
go wid your heart!

Som said...

Solitude and space ... it is very important .. the day one forgets the importance of these .. forgets the importance of himself ...

A man is made to think and a thinker always thinks alone ...

BrownPhantom said...

I agree with the comment above by Iya.
Me & my friend wnet to Goa this January for a 4 day trip. He went back on time and I stayed back on impulse alone for 4 more days. That was something,the sunsets and the beaches. And the coolest crowd. You can roam whenever and wherever u want, alone or in company.
Here;s a brief description of the trip :)
http://brownphantom.blogspot.com/2009/02/goa-trip-introduction.html

Lubna said...

Well u can't do that ...not unless u promise me a date ...lol :)

Can't agree more :)

Onthewingsofadream said...

vijay : - tired ? no ....there is not much work nowdays ..its just the need for some change ...

latin :=- wow that was some journey ...i dnt drive and dnt venture out alone in India much ..mom- dad dnt think its safe enuff


batates :- Even i used to do that a lot ..a movie , coffee and shopping alone then quite dinner at my fav italian restruant ...and aromatic body massage ....I say it loud ' I love myself the most' ...:-)

thanks all of you for your comments

Onthewingsofadream said...

lubna !! darlin you remember that day when we went for date ...:-) I still smile remembering that ...

and we will go again ..to rock vegas together ...:
muaaaaaaahh

Onthewingsofadream said...

chronic writer :-in front of mirror ...do I see some similarities here ..lol ..go for it ..have a day of just doing nothing but adoring yourself ..

seher :- i can imagine you doing that ..I have done it too pehle ...time to do it again ..and actually no reason ..just like that ...who needs a reason to be with your ownself..


Som :- wise words dear
friend ..and so true ..

brown phantom :-wow .Goa is heaven for people like us ...I saw the pics ..will read the blog tomorow at leisure ...
thanks for visiting my blog.

Jinxed Pixie said...

i want to do that too..
honestly...what you said there about not checking mails and all, that's what i want to do...

Lubna said...

..lol ..How can i forget it .... Now we have it documented too.....

Vijayshryaln said...

oh yea.. have a change here.... pleasure..

moi said...

So madam is planning on a holiday alone??

Onthewingsofadream said...

Pixie :- chal chotu aja ...bangalore main holiday karne ...

moi :- kush aisa hi ...

I wish jhaldi hi I write a post...
' A date with myself ..finally !! '

Sumera said...

Hope you manage to get away from the rat-race soon. Its good to take a break :)

Love your blog, will visit again soon :D

Jinxed Pixie said...

ok call em chotu...it's soooo cute...

Té la mà Maria - Reus said...

very good blog, congratulations
regard from Reus Catalonia
thank you

Praveen said...

if u manage to do this..I would surely bow my head before you...

and its almost similar to my own wishlist:D

Rahul Viswanath said...

Way to go ...... Have a blast !!!

moi said...

"a date with yourself" post,Lol and I am looking forward for it too. Cos I can never enjoy alone!!

Preeti said...

Okie chotu ..:-)

thanks Rahul and Reus ..

Praveen :- Its been on my wish list for long time ...lets seee

Moi :- I always plan to be alone and end up meeting new people but thats what I enjoy ..idea is to go away from current headaches ...meeting strangers at new places is refreshing change ...

Renu said...

I have lot of free time, but still i wish like you:), actually cant explain, this total freedom for some time really rare and very precious for most of the people.

I always keep planning that once my sister's kids settle down, we sisters will go for tour:)

mayz said...

well somehow i neva felt d need to do that...i can surround myself in a cocoon even in d most crowded of rooms...that dsnt mean i dont understand d need for solitude...its imp...vy imp infact...

Twisted Elegance.... said...

Hinduism integrated this aspect in our everyday life. But unfortunately we have lost touch. Why do you think the scriptures advocate a few hours of meditation everyday? This is how our forefathers spent time for themselves.
:)

Chriz said...

i did it and i came back.. hunting for a new post.. will be back

chronicwriter here

Swats said...

Wonderful!

I would love to sleep for a good 10hours and do window-shopping the rest of the time..even I wud love 2 do tht :P

Thnx fr blogrolling me :)

Biju Mathews said...

Go for it my dear!! It is the best thing that you can do to yourself if you are not on loss of pay (LOP) Living for yourself and living for your thoughts. This is great!! Do it...!!

I liked what you wrote here, "we end up losing touch with the most important person, our own self"

Keep Blogging!!

Luscious Sealed Lips said...

CHEATER!

I was about to write on the same thing! I feel the same. :(

Hope we both get time for ourselves soon. :)

Kisses.

J said...

Coincidence.. I just had a date with myself over the weekend. Yeh, it's hard to find time for oneself but then again, it ain't too hard.

MAN IN PAINTING said...

don't wait.
life is what we choose.
nice post.
wishes..
happy holidays..

Tazeen said...

Ah ... aren't we all looking for it?

Nutty said...
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Sophie said...

I would love to do that.. :)

Sometimes you lose sight of things... and when you travel, everything balances out.

nsiyer said...

A great thought! I feel like this many a time. I liked the usage
'date with myself". I too would very soon love to be with myself and spend time without anyone, no phones, but only me and myself in oblivion. Enjoyed it.

Pinku said...

so true....wish i could do that too...but then it wont be the first time....i have actually done this....gone away to a hill station for a weekend...switched off my phone....and just relaxed....it was beautiful and it was everything you are dreaming off...do it soon... you deserve it girl.

Indian Home Maker said...

Came here from Pinku's blog ...

And yes I too would love a vacation like that.

Preeti said...

Thanks everyone !!

love the comments and visiting your sites ...

I have been away again ...doing nothing ...relaxing and just being lazy ...reading and dancing and shopping (yes ...)

feeling better but still holidays look a distant dream ...so taking some odd days off and enjoy my stay ay home ...


but now I am back ...and will be reading all the posts of my dear blogger friends over next couple of days !!

Entertainer said...

njoy.. its the memories that will stay back..long after the mad world has slowed down...

Akshaya Kamalnath said...

Beautiful post...I guess its what everyone what deep within...I do make sure I take days off for myself but they're quite rare...its so weird that we think its not ok to say no to so many ppl but when it comes to ourselves we always say no...hope you have a good date with yourself.

sm said...

date with yourself will surely take you to the new heights of pleasure.
good post like it.
http://realityviews.blogspot.com/

sawan said...

dreams!!! even i have one like tht :) wish ur prayers are answered soon and u get time for urself really soooon!! u take care :)

roopscoop said...

hey you've got a nice place here and i luv luv luv luv ur sari!! :)

ARUNA said...

hey wonderful......everyone shd have their own space.............just enjoy urself!!Just pretend for sometime that u r the only person on this earth and u have freedom to do anything and everything!!!!!!!

workhard said...

Hi, thats a nice post.. That is so much me, wanting to get away from everything.. After a while, all these things that started out as fun become an obligation that we cant get away from..

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Preeti said...

this will be the 50th comment on my post ...yahoooo ..my first half century :-)

thanks guys !! I am lovinh it ..and am rt now trying to catch up all you blog friends raeding your posts ..also am writing a new post ..may br will poist tomoroow

sanely insane said...

as a quick fix...a couple of hours in a spa might do good :)

Salil Dhawan said...

Very true post.We all are so much involved in our hectic lifestyle that we loose essence of life somewhere.
Very true
Nice post.
Salil
http://views-point.blogspot.com

Biju Mathews said...

I too hope that you can get that soon... :-)

Keep Blogging!

Don't Be a Slut said...

Preeti, thanks for stopping by my blog - truly honored.

Funny that your name is Preeti - because when I saw your picture, I thought, "Wow! she's so pretty."

And you're right, making yourself a priority can be remarkably hard!

Rajesh said...

Very true.

That one crucial day we will always find missing all the time.

No planing will help. It need s only execution

muthu said...

Nice post......

If there is one person people are not spendin time with - its themselves.....

loved your post......


hey I have written a few short stories in my blog... I would like you to read and comment on them......

thanks.

workhard said...

Hey.. how come no posts.. Get busy girl...

americanising desi said...

where art thou

kochuthresiamma p .j said...

a date with myself! we've grown such strangers to ourselves that we'll get fidgety if we manage this date.

Suyog said...

hiiii.......after a long time i gotta a chance to read a real blog ...........by real i mean no fiction and related to oneself .........

kaam ke bojh ke tale zindagi.......its really hactic ...

Carina the Blogarina said...

Great idea. Me time scares me bit though, but for you if you can do it! Let us know when you honor you comittment to youself :)

Rhett said...

Get that date asap- even if it takes riding out of the city to anywhere else!

Elegant Chic said...

Ditto!!!!!
http://elegantchic.blogspot.com/2009/05/i-me-myself.html

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